“It is worth remembering that the time of greatest gain in terms of wisdom and inner strength is often that of greatest difficulty.”
Dalai Lama
Getting out from under grief can take a painstakingly long while because we find ourselves in a place we’ve never been. We formulate new ways to maneuver, some of which lead us to dead ends, while others a passageway forward. And in the beauty of self-discovery, we choose our own unique way.
We could begin the process haphazardly like flailing eight-year-olds at a birthday party, grasping at anything that finds its way into our lives. There are innumerable external forces we can cling to, but I suggest a place of solitude first. Create a sacred space, granting yourself permission to think and to pray. Solitude gently directed me in the way designed for my healing.
Rumi stated, “Although the road is never ending, take a step and keep walking...on this path let the heart be your guide…”. I listened to mine, and silence spoke. Give yourself unconditional love and patience. I believe the Holy Spirit enables us to redirect rather than condemn those moments of fear and weakness. In 8:26, the book of Romans reminds us that, “In the same way, the spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the spirit himself intercedes…”.
Quiet solitude breathed into me a voice by way of the Spirit. I felt deeply within my heart the steps I needed to take and which to avoid. I was influenced by something I might have read, perhaps the perfect words from a trusted friend, or my daughter’s embrace.
Those are the times when the heart speaks.
Stillness is a superpower. Listen to what it is teaching.